NOMAS White knights and male feminists , these TURDS are the true problem.

Want To Be A Good Dad? Support Mom And Avoid Father’s Rights GroupsImage

By Trish Wilson
Reprinted with permission of the author

Over the past decade, fatherhood has been all the rage and dads are naturally the talk of pundits on Father’s Day. So let’s say you’re a divorcing dad and you’re having trouble coping. You look for help on the internet and discover the father’s rights movement.

Be warned – avoid father’s rights groups like the plague. According to the pro-feminist men’s group The National Organization For Men Against Sexism (NOMAS), “male supremacist groups (“Father’s Rights”) have caused unspeakable harm to our country and to our children by encouraging abusive fathers, often with little past involvement with their children, to seek custody as a tactic to pressure a mother to return or to punish her for leaving. “Shared parenting”, “friendly parent”, involvement of both parents and other concepts that seem fair and benevolent have instead been used to manipulate courts and legislatures to help abusive fathers. For instance, women are routinely denied custody of their children after being classified as “unfriendly” for asserting that the husband has abused them or their children.” Father’s rights groups prey on confused men angry and sad over the break-up of their relationships by stoking their rage and insecurities. In addition, father’s rights groups encourage men to fight for custody of their children by using harmful tactics that further erode their relationships with their ex’s – and by extension their children.

How can a dad – unemployed or working outside the home – be a good father? Not by fighting for custody or demanding “shared parenting” after divorce or breakup. The best way a dad can be a good father is by providing support to the mother of his children, including both financial and emotional support. According to Florida attorney Elizabeth Kates, “a father’s most important role, and the one common “father factor” in all research that indicates any correlation between father involvement or presence and positive effect on child well-being is: a father who emotionally cares for, financially supports, respects, is involved with, takes some of the work load off of, and generally makes life easier, happier and less stressful for. . . his children’s mother.”

If dad wants to make sure his children thrive he must do whatever he can to ensure that their mother is thriving. Stop fighting for “shared parenting” or sole custody if you are in court. Don’t badmouth their mother. Stop hiring paid mouthpieces that tout the latest psychological theory to show that the children are best off with a dad who had never acted as their primary caregiver. I know this will piss off lots of men but it is the truth.

Don’t believe me? How about the research?

A seven-year study by Dallas’s Timberlawn Psychiatric Institute found the one factor that was the most important in helping children become healthy, happy adults, was the quality of the relationship between their parents. This one factor was more important than giving kids hugs, providing good discipline, building their self esteem, or any other aspect of what is traditionally considered ‘good parenting’.” Other studies found that “the strongest single factor associated with resiliency in early years is social attachment to a primary caregiver. There is considerable evidence linking secure attachment to social and academic competence and positive developmental outcomes, such as improved communication, problem-solving, social relationships and grades” and “the single most important determinant of child well-being after divorce is living in a household with adequate income.”

Even the National Fatherhood Initiative agreed with the mother-needs-support assessment when it found that “the best thing a dad can do for his children is love their mother.” Researcher Michael Lamb, known for his studies of fatherhood, noted that “…the warmer, the richer, the more supportive the relationship he has with the mother, the better he is able to be a supportive and loving father for the child.”

So dads, the message is clear. If you want your children to grow up to be happy and healthy adults, the best thing you can do for them is to make sure that their mother is comfortable, healthy, and happy. When primary caregiving moms thrive, children thrive. And happy children enjoy their fathers more.

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Stop Ignoring Dads in Olympics Ads

Stop Ignoring Dads in Olympics Ads

Target: Procter & Gamble
Sponsored by: Armin Brott
Procter & Gamble’s campaign for the upcoming London Summer Olympics: “Thank you, Mom.” Only mom? Really? As far as P&G is concerned, dads simply don’t exist.Â

But when it comes to sports, research shows that dads play the primary role in sparking an interest and in physical practice. P&G acknowledges what moms do (and they do a lot!). So why leave dads out?

Ignoring dads is insulting and offensive. How about, “Thank you Mom and Dad” instead?

The contributions fathers make to their children’s development are quite powerful. Studies find, for example, that kids with an actively involved dad:Â
– Are more social as infants, better problem solver as toddlers, and have higher IQs at age three.
– Get better grades in school and are more likely to graduate and go on to college
– Have better friendships and fewer mental health problems.
– Are less likely to get involved in criminal activity, abuse drugs or alcohol, or become teen parents.
– Have more successful and more fulfilling careers as adults.
– Are more independent, work harder, have more self-confidence, and are more resilient in the face of defeat–critical traits that every athlete needs to succeed.

This is the 21st century, P&G. Today’s dads are involved at every stage of our children’s lives. Ignoring us as parents is insulting. Alienating us as consumers isn’t good for business.

Please join me in urging P&G to start including dads in their advertising and to acknowledge and celebrate the wonderful things dads do to help their children thrive

Allyson McConnell, Alberta Mother Who Drowned Sons In Bathtub, Sentenced To Six Years For Manslaughter

Allyson McConnell, Alberta Mother Who Drowned Sons In Bathtub, Sentenced To Six Years For Manslaughter

WETASKIWIN, Alta. – Jim McConnell thinks the lives of his two young grandsons are worth more than the sentence their mother has received for drowning the boys in a bathtub.

His former daughter-in-law, Allyson McConnell, was sentenced Monday to six years in prison. But she faces 15 months in custody because Justice Michelle Crighton gave McConnell double credit for the time she has already spent in a mental hospital. She’ll be eligible for early release in 10 months.

McConnell, who is originally from Australia, drowned the boys in the family home in Millet, just south of Edmonton, two years ago when she was severely depressed, suicidal and possibly affected by alcohol and prescription drugs.

Jim McConnell stood outside the courtroom and angrily questioned the judge’s decision.

“This is ridiculous. What’s going to stop people from going to kill kids now?” he said. His wife and son, McConnell’s former husband, sat in the hallway wiping away tears.

Crown prosecutor Gordon Hatch said he understands the family is stunned and upset, and said he is also disappointed. He had recommended a 12-year term.

“There’s this desire always to try to explain a sentence as a basis for how much the children’s lives are worth, and that’s certainly not how we want to approach it,” Hatch said afterwards.

“If the judge had imposed 15 years or 20 years or life in prison — that’s not enough for these two children.”

During the trial, court heard that Allyson and Curtis McConnell were in the middle of a bitter divorce. She wanted to take their children back to her home country.

On Feb. 1, 2010, she drove an hour north of Millet to Edmonton, parked her car at a toy store and jumped off an overpass onto a busy freeway.

When police called her husband to say she was in the hospital with broken bones, he wondered where the children were and quickly drove home from work. He was horrified to find 10-month-old Jayden and two-year-old Connor floating in the tub among their plastic toys.

Their mother testified that she remembers nothing about the days before she jumped off the overpass. She also didn’t know her children were dead until her mother told her while she was in the hospital. The news drove her into hysterics.

She was originally charged with second-degree murder. The Crown argued at the trial that she planned to kill her children as revenge against her husband.

But the judge ruled there was a “black hole” in the evidence and no one could know whether the depressed and suicidal woman meant to kill her boys. Court heard McConnell has a history of depression and suicide attempts that began when her father got her pregnant when she was 15.

Since her arrest, she has been under constant suicide watch while a patient at Alberta Hospital in Edmonton. She testified during the trial that she will try to kill herself again because she does not want to get well.

Her comments “bring into sharp focus the terrible price she will continue to pay for her unspeakable actions,” Crighton said in her sentencing decision.

But “no matter how severely compromised Ms. McConnell was at the time, it cannot be forgotten that she took the lives of two vulnerable children who were entitled to look to her for protection.”

The judge said it would be inappropriate to allow their mother to serve no additional time in custody. Defence lawyer Peter Royal had suggested she be allowed to return to her homeland a free woman.

Royal said the Canadian government has started deportation proceedings and his client could serve her sentence in Australia to be near her family.

Hatch said the deportation is probably on hold because the Crown is appealing the manslaughter conviction and is likely to appeal the sentence as well.

Crighton said she would recommend corrections officials allow McConnell to serve her sentence at the mental hospital until doctors determine she is well enough to be transferred somewhere else.

“I am concerned that if Ms. McConnell does not remain at Alberta Hospital until her physicians consider it appropriate to be transferred, the sentence I have imposed will do no more for her than prolong her inevitable demise,” said the judge.

Hatch added that the woman is still the subject of a mental health warrant, so it is unlikely that she will be released when she completes her sentence. She will have to remain under psychiatric care until she is no longer considered a danger to herself or others.

McConnell showed no emotion during the sentencing, sitting quietly as she had throughout the trial. When asked by the judge if she had anything to say, she shook her head and answered simply: “no.”

Crighton acknowledged the intense emotion of the case and the victim impact statements given to the court by Curtis McConnell and his parents.

The judge said no one who heard them will soon forget the anguish of Audrey McConnell, the boys’ paternal grandmother, who as she talked about how she had one day cleaned her patio doors and realized too late that she was wiping away one of the children’s sticky fingerprints. She cried for days knowing there would be no new ones.

“It is said that the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on,” said the judge. “So it will be for the McConnell and Meager families.”

Death Penalty would be too good for the cunt.